BOUNDARY REMINDERS

Let my "yes" be "yes, and my "no" be "no." Strive for honesty, but be nice.

I will not be a spiritual clairvoyant or second guess anymore. When asked questions or for an opinion, I will give information.

Resentment is a signal that I should have said "no" sooner.

People with good Boundaries are seldom angry. How often am I angered?

People with good Boundaries seldom blame others. How often do I excuse my behavior or blame others? "She made me mad." "He just ruined my day." "Did you see the way they looked at me?"

Do I look at people and say to myself, "I would be so good for them. If they just had my influence for a little while." "I know he is really a good man, deep down inside. He just needs an understanding person around him." Instead, I should be looking for people who are a good influence on ME.

Who do I know that is a good influence on me? _______________ and _________________. What character qualities do they display that I would like to learn? ____________________ and _____________________

Who am I responsible for? Myself. What am I responsible for? My own TWAAMS (thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, motives).

I cannot develop healthy Boundaries alone. I must have several other supportive, safe people around me to practice on. Their names are __________, ___________, and ___________

The hardest person for me to say "no" to is _________________. I will practice "no" on them later after I get stronger.

I am attempting to control others when I say "you should.. ." or "why don't you...." lam to use "I" messages. "I will . . . if you continue to . . . ." State my Boundary and the consequence for violating it.

I can renegotiate my Boundaries when I see the fruit of righteousness develop in the other person.